The Power of Friendship


There is a distinct difference between a friend and someone who is friendly. When I was a child, I had a best friend. While we never talked about our feelings in great detail, I knew that we felt the same about one another. Simply put, we loved one another. In fact, most of my childhood memories include my best friend. We did everything together. We rode our bikes, we talked to girls, we skipped school, we drank his father’s booze, and we grew together. However, like life sometimes does, we grew in different directions. Even though we grew in different directions, we never grew apart. To this day, I consider him my best friend. Fast forward to 2018. Today, true friendship seems as rare as a priceless jewel, and for some, as worthless as the trash we seemingly disregard on a daily basis. First and foremost, I understand that I must know how to be a friend in order to have a true friend. That is true. However, friendship doesn’t always mean that you have to be moving in the same direction, at the same time, on the same vessel, while in the same space. Friends celebrate the accomplishment of your dreams even if their own dreams are under construction. Friends sit with you in silence when there is nothing further to say. Friends forgive one another because they understand that love like this is not only worth saving, but there are too many good memories to allow a few bad experiences to diminish something great. With a true friend, you don’t have to worry about what you’re wearing, working, driving, living, or loving. Like the rising and setting of the sun, true friendship just is. It’s beautiful. Me, I was closer to my best friend than I was to my brothers and sisters. My brothers and sisters shared my DNA. My best friend shared my heart. Today, my best friend and I live in different zip codes. While we don’t see one another every day, our phone calls seem to infuse my spirit with a sense of familiarity and comfort. They say that people come into our lives for a reason or a season. My best friend has seen every season of my life. He has seen the despair of my winters, the hopes of my spring, the luster of my summer, and the fears of my fall. He got me through the death of my mother. He got me through the guilt of my divorce. He got me through the fear of so many unknowns in my life, I can’t even begin to count them. I believe that our existence is conceived in Heaven before we are conceived on earth. When The Creator conceived of he and I, he knew that we would not only need one another, but also be better people because of one another. For that reason alone, I am blessed. If you find yourself in a position where you realize that the people you once considered a friend are simply friendly, don’t fret. The difference between school and life is that school teaches you a lesson and then you are given a test. Life gives you a test that teaches you a lesson. If a friendly person has broken your heart in the name of friendship, just know that the space in your heart was too beautiful and full for them to occupy. Why do you think we need oxygen when we go too deep or too high? Some things are just too overwhelming for the average person. If you have a best friend like mine, don’t waste a single second on anger or regret. Life isn’t promised to any of us, so it’s very important that we laugh, love, dance, forgive, give, and grow as often as we can. In the end, I believe that when we reflect on our lives, most of us won’t remember anything that can be bought or sold. In the end, I think that our last tears will be shed because we are fully aware that we are separating from the very person or people who made our lives into a life. The greatest gift that The Creator has ever given us is the gift of love. Love as often as you can. Take the leap. Remember, the best version of yourself exists on the other side of your fears. Don’t fear friendship. Fear loneliness disguised as independence. Until next time, do something for someone else other than yourself for no reason at all other than to make their day better. As always, if you make it to where you’re going, please don’t forget to leave a map for the rest of us. Patrick

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