The Right Type of Black. The Right You.

First of all, let me say HAPPY NEW YEAR! It’s 2023, and we are officially off to the races. I hope that your year is beginning with hope, Love, and Joy. I hope that you are ready for this ride that we call a new year. It’s crazy to me that the year seems so long, yet it passes so quickly. For me, I am committed to greater spiritual, intellectual, and emotional growth this year. As I grow older, I seem to feel deeper, see clearer (although I currently need new glasses), and desire less material things. For the first time in my life, it seems as though my head, heart, and body are in sync with one another. Let’s keep it real; for some men, the body easily wins battles that both the head and the heart are emphatically against. Me, I have fought those battles. Hell, I still have the scars. Thankfully, those days are behind me. Now, let’s jump right into it. For a great portion of my Life, I have struggled with being the right type of Black. If you’re wondering what that means, let me help you out. The desire to be the right type of Black means feeling secure no matter the environment one is placed in. For example, throughout the course of my life, I have frequently felt too hood to be suburban, too suburban to be hood, too educated to know, understand, and recognize the struggle, too scorned by the knowing, understanding, and recognition of the struggle to appreciate my education, too genuinely Black in a room full of White people, and too “cultured” (code word for acting White. No one gets this!) to be down in a room full of Black people. Talk about exhaustion! Yes, feeling like that is exhausting. Therefore, I decided that I was going to be me in all rooms. I am authentically me in all rooms. It took me years to get here. I had to understand that no matter what you do, everyone is not going to like, appreciate, or understand you. It’s just that simple. I have learned that as long as I like, appreciate, and understand myself, all can, and should be well in my Universe. Again, it took me years to get to this stage in my Life. How did I get here? Well, when I was a child, I was constantly compared to others. “Look at this person, look at them. You should be more like them.” I was seemingly given a microscope that allowed me to see all of my flaws. Yet, I never received the confirmation of my worth. Therefore, I spent much of my life trying to find it. I had to lose me in order to find me. Through my confusion, I found clarity. To you, I’ll say this. You are very special. You are uniquely you, and as a result, the world is a better place. I know that there are things that you want to change. I know that you are fully aware of those things. However, what are the things that make you both special and beautiful? Do you know those things? What are some things about yourself that you would never change? What is your individual magic that you feel, yet either can’t or won’t speak of? These are the things that make you the right type of you. Honestly, when I meet people, these are things that I look for. Being you in all environments is both empowering and enlightening. Being you is beautiful. As I am me, may you beautifully be you. May we all be better as a result. This is going to be a beautiful year….Patrick

This week, please do something for someone other than yourself for no other reason than to make their lives better. As always, if you make it to where you’re going, please don’t forget to leave a map for the rest of us. Always Choose Love Because Love Changes Everything.

2 thoughts on “The Right Type of Black. The Right You.

  1. Pamela Kremsberger January 2, 2023 / 2:17 pm

    It’s good to hear such positive thoughts to start the year!


  2. truthverdad1 January 4, 2023 / 1:54 am

    🔥 Your Words are pure fire of the most refined flame.

    Keep on keepin‘ on my Good Brother. We need you! We need your Words, Perspective, Heart, Feelings, Thoughts, Reflections and Desires…

    OneLove ~t.ruth 💕🦓love zebra N’action


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